Thursday, March 5, 2015

11 Local Celebs Say No to Sex Before Marriage



In a world where we are often bombarded by shallow and deceitful representations of  sex and love, it's inspiring to know that there are still local celebs who speak of Real Love and live it out in their own lives.  They are definitely a breath of fresh air especially in the entertainment industry! They are unafraid to speak their mind and to talk about their values in public, hence setting a good example especially to their young fans. Here's a list of some of our local TV personalities who say no to sex before marriage and yes to Real Love, in their own words:



1. Nikki Gil
On being a virgin: "O, sige, 'yan na ang kapintasan ko! People have said, 'Eh, kasi, lalaki. May pangangailangan.' My point exactly! See? Kung 'yan lang pala ang issue, [he didn't really deserve me]. Nobody told me to stay a virgin, or because I'm a stuck-up prude na holy-holy. It's my choice. I've always been ma-pride. If sex is something I value, [gano'n talaga]!"





2-3. Iya Villania and Drew Arellano
On her personal decision to be remain a virgin until marriage: "But, personally, I do believe that one should not practice pre-marital sex."

On her decade-long abstinence with Drew Arellano: "Yes! Doon ko naman na-confirm na mahal niya talaga ako."

"He was very patient, yes… I mean, it's easy now for me to say because we're married now."

"It's actually nakakatawa. Mas nakakabilib si Drew!" 

"It's actually easy for… which is why ang lakas ng loob ko magsabi. It's easy for girls who [haven't] experienced anything because you don't know what you're missing out on!"

"It all boils down to values"

Iya defends friend, Nikki Gil, from bashers who doubted Gil's claims of still being a virgin

Iya and Drew got married on January 31, 2014.



4. Toni Gonzaga 
On what the foundation of marriage should be: "Naniniwala ako that love should be unconditional. Hindi porke mahal mo ang isang tao, dapat ang kundisyon mo, 'Dapat sexually compatible tayo.' I think that love should be the strong foundation of the marriage, and I think that the trust and the commitment that you want to stay together in the marriage [weigh more]."

Trivia: Toni previously said in a TV interview that she and her boyfriend of over eight years, film director Paul Soriano, have never shared a bedroom to "avoid temptation." 







5. Chris Tiu 
On chastity and real love: "To me, it [chastity] is a manifestation of true love."

"Love involves waiting and sacrificing.  That would make your relationship and your marriage even more special."
Chris Tiu married his high school sweetheart, Clarisse Ong, his first and last girlfriend of 11 years. Though they planned to get married on Mama Mary's birthday, September 8, 2013, it fell on a Sunday in Canada (where they got married) so they had to move it to September 7, 2013.





6. Yeng Constantino 
On setting limits to physical intimacy prior to marriage: "There's no pre-marital sex. Gano'n talaga. No pre-marital sex, iyan 'yung clear na, 'No to it.' Kasi we want to honor marriage. Kasi, 'diba, ang tagal-tagal kang prineserve ng mga magulang mo, nanay mo, papa mo. Lahat ng paggalit, pananakot para hindi ka lumabas ng bahay, pumarty, pero sa isang iglap, 'It's all gone, Ma.'"

"So, iyon 'yung sa amin, iyon 'yung boundary namin. Kasi once na nag-move ka na into physical intimacy, sobrang magbabago na 'yun. It's another level na you have to save. That's for me."



Yeng married her first and last boyfriend, rock band vocalist Yan Asuncion, on Valentine's Day 2015.





7. Jewel Mische
On the purpose of sex: “Alister and I, first and foremost, we believe that sex is God's wedding present.” 

“We believe that sexual intercourse or the physical and emotional union of two people should be a means of celebrating love, producing children and experiencing pleasure together protected by the commitment of marriage.” 

On starting over: “We are both grounded and we believe that sex is for married people. But we messed up also in the past.”

On saving their first kiss: “Now that we have found each other, we are willing to pursue what we think is right. We we will do everything to reach that goal. And ito na, we believe that everything starts with kissing... It's the doorway to physical intimacy. So we said na if we can wait to kiss, then let's wait.”

On waiting together: “Kailangan kasi if you want that, pareho kayo ng beliefs, pareho kayo ng conviction. And now we're helping each other to achieve that."



Jewel Mische and Alister Kurzer got married on March 1st of this year. (Photo: Jewel's Instagram)




8. Megan Young
In a TV interview, Miss World 2013 Megan Young boldly stated her stand on a number of life and family issues.

On pre-marital sex:
“Sex is for marriage, that is my belief.” 

When asked about how she says no to pre-marital sex, she replied: "You just say no. If they try to push you, then you step away because you know that that person doesn’t value you, doesn’t value the relationship as much – and if the guy is willing, you know,  to sacrifice that, then that  means a lot."

On abortion:
“I’m against abortion. I’m pro-life and if it means killing someone who’s already there, then I’m against that, of course. My beliefs are, no abortion.”

On divorce: 
"I’m actually against divorce, because I’ve seen, of course, that in my family. So I think that if you marry someone, that should be the person you should be with forever, through sickness and health, through good and bad, you should be with that person."




9. Miriam Quiambao (Miss Universe 1999 1st Runner-up)
Prior to their marriage, Miriam Quiambao, and her boyfriend, Roberto "Ardy" Roberto, a motivational speaker and author,  made this purity pledge, which can be found on Miriam's Instagram account:














"Let it be known that I, Ardy Roberto aka Mr. Pogi, and I, Miriam Quiambap, aka Ms. U, vow before God to protect each other's purity from this day onwards until the day, by God's grace that we are wed. Therefore, we shall not engage in any act that shall ignite sexual desires or passions prematurely, such as passionate kissing (lips-to-lips), pheromone sniffing or foreplay. The only expressions of affection allowed are: kissing on the cheek, holding hands and hugging or "akbay." I, Ardy Roberto, promise to take the lead in this purity pledge and protect you, Miriam Quiambao, and your testimony. So help us God! In Jesus' name."
(Photo: Miriam's Instagram)

They tied the knot on March 25, 2014.





10. Janine Tugonon (Miss Universe 2012 first runner-up)

On saving sex for marriage: "For me, marriage is sacred. Ngayon kasi, parang nagiging norm na lang, eh, sa tao na, 'Come on, let's do it.' Pero iba pa rin siguro 'yung pakiramdam pag ginawa mo siya after [getting married]."







11. Mariz Umali (GMA 7 Reporter)
On how she was able to save herself for marriage: "If we can't wait for the right time, then I broke up with them."






Mariz Umali married her long time friend and fellow GMA 7 reporter, Raffy Tima, on December 8, 2012, Feast of the Immaculate Conception.

Beautiful! Beautiful! Beautiful! Real Love is so beautiful and it is absolutely worth the wait! May God always give us the grace to keep our relationships pleasing in His eyes and the courage to always keep love real! 

40 comments:

  1. God bless you all for your value of chastity and virginity. True love waits and it becomes a strong foundation of a blessed and hppy marriage. Congratulations!

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    1. That's true. True love is worth waiting for and fighting for :)

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  2. Indeed, true love waits! Thanks Miss Anna Cosio for this post, and thanks to our celebrities who uphold traditional Filipino values.

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    1. May their tribe increase! You're welcome, Sr. Athens! ^_^ Glad you appreciated it po :)

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  3. How about the author? :-)

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    1. Thank you for asking, Anonymous :) The answer is, yes, I share the same stand as the celebs featured above. I'm not a celebrity though. Haha! And by God's grace, I've been keeping my promise to Him for 26 years now and counting. It's not easy, but God's grace makes it possible :)

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  4. So people who have sex before marriage don't experience this "real love" that ur talking about? Having sex is a decision. It does not define the "kind of love" u have for a person.

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    1. Hi, Anonymous! :) Thank you for sharing your opinion on the matter. Having sex is a decision, indeed, but it's not the same decision as choosing which ice cream flavor you want to eat today or which outfit you want to wear. The difference with sex is that it has life-changing and often irreversible consequences.

      As for your question, I'm going to reply with another question: What is LOVE? I think we would all agree that love is to do what is good (or even the best) for the person that we love. Love is willing and doing what is best for one's beloved. Sex makes two people one flesh whether we like it or not. Is it best for someone to experience becoming one flesh with another person without the life-long commitment of marriage? Is it best to risk psychological trauma , which is often a result of breakups from relationships where people became sexually involved? Also, is it best to put the person you love at risk of getting pregnant outside of marriage? Is it what is best for the possible children you will have? Is it what is best for your beloved's soul?

      One's answers to these questions will determine whether sex is done out of love or out of something else.

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  5. Kudos to these ladies (and to the author too) for being able to preserve themselves for marriage. I wasn't a virgin when I got married...and to be honest..if I could turn back time..I would make myself more responsible and save virginity for marriage. Indeed, there are a lot of ladies out there that would be too defensive saying virginity doesn't matter...it's the 21st century blah blah blah..but truth of the matter is...it really does matter..BIG TIME! I'm not saying that you wont find true love when you're no longer a virgin..of course you will...but the fact that you'll never know how special and precious it could have been if you were able to preserve yourself for your first night of being married...is something non-virgins can never experience anymore. No matter how hard ladies would deny that it DOES matter...we all know it could've been the best gift you could've given your husband. Believe it or not, nothing can make a man the proudest apart from marrying a virgin...especially now that we are in the 21st century :) So to all girls out there (I've got a teenager now omg!)...preserve yourself and do not loose the chance to experience the best night of your FOREVER with the man you are to marry =)

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    1. Wow! Thank you for sharing that. We could all learn from your wisdom and experience :-) And I would personally take your advice. They say mothers know best. Haha!

      Thank you also for mentioning that part about starting over, that even non-virgins can still find real love, just like some of the celebs above who admitted that they did make some mistakes before but were able to keep their love pure the next time around. :)

      I remember the story of Crystalina Evert. When she was in high school, her boyfriend then left her after she gave him her virginity. She was devastated and tried to escape the pain by getting into sexual relationships with different boys, until one day, she "accidentally" listened to a chastity talk at their local church. And that started her conversion. One night on her way home after going to a party, she passed by an adoration chapel. Something drew her to get inside and so she did and the next thing she knew, she was standing before the Blessed Sacrament, the Body of Christ Himself, and she was shaking and crying. She just knew she had to end her reckless lifestyle right then and there.

      And so she went home and decided to start living a pure life. Since then, every time she got tempted to party (which meant getting drunk and hooking up with a guy), she would write a letter to her future husband, telling him of the sacrifice she was doing out of her love for him. She was able to write several letters and she gave these letters to her groom on the day of their wedding. She married Jason Evert, a virgin, and a known chastity speaker in the world.

      To make it even sweeter, Crystalina also made a list of 60 things he hoped for in a husband. Some were non-negotiables but some were just for fun, but our God is a gracious God, and He gave her someone who had all these 60 traits. Haha! Now they have five children (I think they have six now) and they go around the world together to tell the young people about the beauty of the virtue of chastity. They are a real inspiration to many! ^_^

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  6. My take on this is love is real no matter what. Love does not discriminate. Whether you had sex before marriage or after is a matter of choice. And implying love can never be real had somebody decided to have sex before marriage is a myopic view of humanity or love for that matter, in my opinion.

    Do not get me wrong. I am happy for you and those who have waited or are still waiting. But what makes me frown is reading an article that is divisive; borderline to being discriminatory. Love will never be second class just because sex happened prior to marriage / commitment.

    My view is simple. Real love doesn't make any distinction. Real love is a choice. And a continuous one.

    Btw, the fact that you have chosen celebrities as examples does not make your proposition more persuasive.








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    1. //My take on this is love is real no matter what. Love does not discriminate.//
      //But what makes me frown is reading an article that is divisive; borderline to being discriminatory.//
      //Real love doesn't make any distinction.//

      Unfortunately, not everything that looks like love, is in reality, love. That's exactly why we have to go back to the question I just asked earlier: what is love? In saying that "love does not discriminate" you're actually saying that love could be anything you (subjectively) want it to be, hence it has no meaning at all. It's just whatever you want it to be, so let's just forget about what God or Aristotle and the other great philosophers said about it. Anything can be "love" anyway, right?

      Wrong. Love is the tendency to the good. Love is willing the good of one's beloved. If you do the opposite, can you still call it love? Lest I repeat myself, kindly just review the explanation in my previous comment above. If we don't want to fall for the counterfeits of love, we as human beings who have intellect had better use that intellect to "discriminate" and "make a distinction" between what is real and what is fake.

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    2. //And implying love can never be real had somebody decided to have sex before marriage is a myopic view of humanity or love for that matter, in my opinion.//

      Your words, not mine. I know of people who truly love each other now although they also admit that they've made mistakes in the past. I think the more relevant question to be asked here is: Is having sex before marriage a loving thing to do?

      The post simply says that waiting until marriage to have sex is a manifestation of real love and that it is actually a beautiful thing. Please stop trying to see things here where there are none.

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    3. //Btw, the fact that you have chosen celebrities as examples does not make your proposition more persuasive.//

      Of course, it does. To actually hear it from those who were able to do it in their own relationships and now enjoy the fruits of their sacrifice is an inspiring thing. And for it to come from people who work in an environment not really conducive to holding fast to one's values makes it even more encouraging to those who want to follow in their footsteps. Not everyone will be persuaded, of course, but I'm pretty sure some of their millions of fans will be. :) I mean, who wouldn't be persuaded to seek real love? It's what we were made for. We were created to love and be loved. Let's not settle for anything less than what's real. :)

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  7. Very, very, very, very, very well said! I actually broke up with someone who, clearly had sex only in his mind. Count me in! ^_^

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  8. Good for you, Donna! :-D You did the right thing. And you surely deserve better. You deserve someone who will love you for you and not just for the pleasure you can give. May God continue to give you the grace you need and may He grant the deepest desires of your heart. :) <3

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  9. I am floored by the xchange of ideas bw anna and anonymous on true love. My eldest is engaged to be married n May, and they subscribe to the "true love waits" prnciple. Thanx to both of you for such show of conviction. I really had a good read and my own conviction strengthened to promote TRUE LOVE WAITS among our youth not only for its affirmation of true love but also as a surefire way of curtailing the spread of sex related diseases.

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    1. Thank you, Anonymous! I'm not sure though if the other "Anonymous-es" are just one person. lol! I hope they'd at least allow other code names/nicknames on Blogger. :)

      Thank you for sharing your insights. Yes, I haven't even mentioned that part about how the concept (and practice) of "True Love Waits" is the only surefire way to prevent the spread of HIV/AIDS and other STDs. Thank you for pointing that out :-) As a Harvard AIDS expert, Dr. Edward Green, once said, there are only two effective ways to prevent the spread of HIV/AIDS: abstinence and faithfulness to one's spouse. :)

      And oh, congrats to your eldest on their engagement! May God bless their upcoming marriage. ^_^

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  10. May more and more people read and be inspired by your blog and may God continue to bless you, Anna :)I'm sure God will bless you with what you have been praying for, a Godly man.

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  11. We should encourage people not to have sex before marriage, it is actually good and probably the best thing to do but we should not also discriminate others who had already lost virginity or made mistakes in the past. Everyone deserves to be loved.

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    1. That's right. As I mentioned in my previous comments, anyone can start over and find real love despite one's past mistakes. It has happened to so many people already. Crystalina Evert's story, which I shared earlier, is just one of them :) The good news about chastity is that it's not about your past, but instead, it's about your decision NOW to live a healthier, more fulfilling, and God-glorifying life ^_^

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  12. during my college recollection a nun asked me what was my motto in life, i said "to preserve the sacred sanctuary of my body without violating it in any form of immorality". My classmates thought it was hilarious but i didn't care. It has always been my principle that my first boyfriend is going to be my husband, i succeeded with my head held up high ��

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    1. Thank you for sharing that, Cero! And good job on standing your ground despite what others thought. At the end of the day, it's what God thought that matters anyway ^_^ And I'm sure you also had the last laugh. ;)

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  13. While I agree that forcing someone to have sex is obviously not indicative of love, "real love" should hardly be based on whether one has sex before marriage or not. The basis of my argument is that marriage IS one of the reasons why women are still marginalised, powerless compared to men, and why the patriarchy exists, which is why virginity holds no value.

    Look up Emma Goldman's Anarchism and Other Essays on Marriage and Love. She says: "Marriage and love have nothing in common; they are as far apart as the poles; are, in fact, antagonistic to each other. No doubt some marriages have been the result of love. Not, however, because love could assert itself only in marriage; much rather is it because few people can completely outgrow a convention." I recommend you to read her text before replying to my post.

    The reason why these celebrities choose to be virgins is solely (or mainly) for religious reasons. But not everyone subscribes to these religions. And I dare you to say that to love is impossible without believing in some god! In fact, I would argue that secular people know what true love is more than most religious people. Love transcends God, religion, everything--even logic and reason.

    I request you to stop using the word "real" before "love" to justify your notion as if love can't exist in other forms (e.g. having sex before marriage or, heck, even non-dyadic relationships) and invalidate other people's views on romance. Love is a VERY COMPLICATED matter, so we should listen to how other people experience it instead of automatically invalidating those experiences because you experience it in a different way.

    To say that "real love" can only exist when sex is done after marriage is self-righteous and patronising. I don't care if you value your virginity--I just don't want you to say that you KNOW BETTER and that other people's views on romance isn't valid. Yours is JUST AS VALID as a non-virgin's.

    We can agree that forcing sex out of someone is not love, and that IT IS RAPE, but attaching a stigma on sex doesn't help here--it HARMS women much more than it helps them since there is an existing patriarchy, and we should get over controlling their bodies already and say what is right or what is wrong. There are more things to be concerned with regards to sex: unwanted pregnancies, rape and sexual assaults, sexual objectification, male-dominance, et al. Virginity is NOT IMPORTANT.

    To answer your question: "Is having sex before marriage a loving thing to do?" Why the hell not? Why is marriage even concerned here? You have been living under a rock if you aren't alarmed by the high rates of divorce in other countries and not ask yourself why it is high: BECAUSE THERE IS NO COLERRATION BETWEEN MARRIAGE AND REAL LOVE.

    I've experienced what it's like to be in love, and it's a very, very beautiful thing. But marriage completely ruins it, which includes the notion that virginity has value. I think you should be more concerned with eliminating the existing patriarchy and NOT with virginity if you really care about true love.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Chloe. :) I did read Emma's essay, "Marriage and Love" from her Anarchism and Other Essays, as per your recommendation, and I can't help but pity her because it seems she has never known marriage for what it truly is, but simply as an economic arrangement. While it's true that the State protects the institution of marriage because it is the foundation of the family, which happens to be the basic unit of society (stable families = stable society), marriage is much more than that. Apparently, Emma Goldman, whose views on marriage you obviously share, wrote only of failed marriages, arranged marriages, and forced marriages. But no mention at all of happy marriages where both parties involved were loving and selfless individuals? It's sad that the only marriages she paid all her attention to were the ones that were carried out for some people's selfish purposes. Anything good can be misused or abused by men, but that doesn't make that good thing suddenly evil or "a curse" (as she called it) just because there were some who corrupted it.

      I can't blame her though if she was able to form that opinion because she lived in a society were many marriages were corrupted. But at the same time, I feel sorry for her for not seeing the beauty of conjugal love or love as man and a woman-- loving a man in all his masculinity and loving a woman in all her femininity-- as expressed in marriage. She did not see that marriage is simply the institutional expression of that conjugal love (a concept she never mentioned). To her, marriage is just a contract, like an exchange of goods and services, but not love. Lucky you if you get the upper hand, but otherwise, the curse is on you. Such corrupted marriages exist, yes, but that doesn't mean that's what marriage is and how it should be. She had obviously been disillusioned by the failed marriages she saw and based on them, she easily concluded that marriage itself is a bad thing. Never mind those marriages where unconditional, total, free, faithful, and fruitful love existed. All she saw were failed, forced, and arranged marriages. Sad.

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    2. //And I dare you to say that to love is impossible without believing in some god! In fact, I would argue that secular people know what true love is more than most religious people. Love transcends God, religion, everything--even logic and reason.//

      Lol! Why would you even dare me to say that? One can love without even knowing that it's what he/she is doing. Hopefully, in the end we would all be led to the source of that love. It's a real mystery, isn't it? ;)

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    3. //I request you to stop using the word "real" before "love" to justify your notion as if love can't exist in other forms (e.g. having sex before marriage or, heck, even non-dyadic relationships) and invalidate other people's views on romance. Love is a VERY COMPLICATED matter, so we should listen to how other people experience it instead of automatically invalidating those experiences because you experience it in a different way.//

      And why not? What's wrong with making a distinction between "real love" and its counterfeits? As I said in the post, we live in a society where love is often misrepresented and distorted, so we have to be wary lest we fall for something that is NOT love. And NO, you can't just call anything you want "love" because it "feels" like love. Is love just a feeling? Is it mere romance? If you do harm to a person, is that love? I think we can all agree here that love is to do what is good for the person you love. One doesn't even have to be religious to grasp that.

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    4. //To say that "real love" can only exist when sex is done after marriage is self-righteous and patronising. I don't care if you value your virginity--I just don't want you to say that you KNOW BETTER and that other people's views on romance isn't valid. Yours is JUST AS VALID as a non-virgin's.//

      Your words, not mine. Real love can exist even after making mistakes, but one thing is for sure: love does not rejoice in wrongdoing.

      And did I say I knew better? I'm just voicing out my thoughts here. :) You're seeing things where there are none.

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    5. //Virginity is NOT IMPORTANT.//

      You're free to make your own stand. And others are free to make theirs, too. I respect your opinion. No forcing here whatsoever.

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    6. //To answer your question: "Is having sex before marriage a loving thing to do?" Why the hell not? Why is marriage even concerned here? You have been living under a rock if you aren't alarmed by the high rates of divorce in other countries and not ask yourself why it is high: BECAUSE THERE IS NO COLERRATION BETWEEN MARRIAGE AND REAL LOVE.//

      It figures. I mean, you don't even believe in marriage in the first place, so why should sex before marriage even matter to you, right? Therefore, your answer to the question is not any more relevant to those who believe in marriage than the question is to those like you who don't even believe in marriage in the first place :)

      Divorce rates are high, therefore, marriage has nothing to do with love? And divorce rates are high so let's just abolish marriage? Because if we abolish marriage, then there will be no divorces anymore, but only true and lasting love. Yay! But seriously, your and Emma Goldman's logic amuses me. How about instead of finding ways to abolish marriage, let us find ways to strengthen marriages? Find out the causes of the breakdown of marriages and address them. Just because you were disillusioned by the failed marriages you saw doesn't make it enough reason to do away with marriage and all that good it brings to humanity and society. The problem is not marriage, but those who defile it.

      Have you ever even asked when divorce rates started to skyrocket? The answer is: since the SEXUAL REVOLUTION. Out-of-wedlock births, sexually transmitted diseases, teen pregnancy, and divorce rates all soared ever since the sexual revolution took place. Margaret Sanger, the eugenicist who was greatly influenced by Emma Goldman, thought the birth control pill and legalized abortion would liberate women. But the opposite happened. Women became more objectified, sex was cheapened, and men were reduced to sex-crazed animals. And this is the exact same sexual revolution that the government is trying to impose on us, Filipinos now. We've already seen how it has destroyed marriages and families in America. Are we really that stupid to follow in their footsteps? As you said, "there are more things to be concerned with regards to sex: unwanted pregnancies, rape and sexual assaults, sexual objectification, male-dominance, et al." Well, these are all the fruits of sexual revolution. To counter this, we must build a culture of respect for women. And promoting the virtue of chastity is just one of the many ways to do this.

      For more info on how the sexual revolution has affected marriages and romantic relationships in the US, please watch this video by the Austin Institute called, "The Economics of Sex" -> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cO1ifNaNABY

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  14. In these mad times where love and sex is always made equal to each other or love = sex when it is not so, it is amazing to know people and even prominent personalities to STAND UP FOR VIRGINITY AND REAL LOVE. They have unbeatable grounds for their conviction unlike shallow lovers who were so
    Narrow minded about sex and love. Thanks for this Anna Cosio! :D - Mary Alyanovna Distributist

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    1. These celebs are setting a good example to the youth. Hoping that there'd be more of them in the future. :)

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  15. Geez.. Some people here are so defensive. If you don't value virginity, then go ahead and give it away. If you think it's totally okay to have sex before marriage, you are totally free to do it. The post is pretty simple, these celebrities consider (sexual) abstinence before marriage an act of real love and IT IS WORKING FOR THEM. Pre-marital sex has gotten more than enough promotion and publicity, it's about time we talk about the alternative. Pre-marital sex has always been associated with negative outcomes anyway, such as teen pregnancies, stds, and illegitimacy. But you can't go wrong with chastity. But then again, NOBODY IS FORCING YOU to adopt their values. Now if what they say makes you feel uncomfortable, guilty, or envious, that is your problem, not theirs.

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    1. My thoughts exactly. Thank you for this comment! :)

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  16. I love this post! :)

    I always admire your thoughts and values shared on chastity, miss Anna. :)
    You are truly an inspiration in a world where SEX is misinterpreted and misused (by some).

    Life is a gift from God. And as we, stewards of HIS HOLY TEMPLE: our body; I think and I believe, we must have to always keep it sacred, well dignified and well respected in everything we say and do. -- am no goody. But just saying.. Truly love waits.. :)

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  17. I like the exchange of opinions in this post. I am with these celebs' and the author's stand too. From what I understood she shared/made this to inspire others to have sex after marriage not make them do so to define "real love". It's on you, your decision, to do it before but it is just pointed here hugely how it is different to have it after. It is very hard for us guys to wait for that long but see how it means a lot to a woman whom they love (who shares their own belief). It also shows how you two understand each other. Marriage is very important to me. Even as a guy, I want it as special as what my bride to be dreams it. For me sex must be for married couples only. We may be goody-goody and alive-alive but this is our belief and this is a very huge deal for us. The author is not defining/concluding that if you do it before it is not true love.

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